PLANT, Inc. Blog
Encouraging Parent Led Education
by Sandy Cannon
Many of us have memories of our own high school prom. Good memories? Not so good memories? My personal memories of prom left me wondering if there wasn’t something better that we could offer our kids. When I heard about the ABQ Regency Ball, I knew I wanted my oldest son to attend, but I was not sure what I was getting into.
Six years later, I’ve been the director of the ball for three years and am already making plans for next year’s ball. There are two main reasons I love the ball. It is good, clean fun for our teens and there are many lessons they learn through the experience, other than just going to a dance.
The kids find many ways to love one another. Many of them help each other to prepare for the ball. They encourage one another by helping them choose a flattering outfit and hairdo, they help each other learn dances, and they learn the “Code of Conduct” for the ball so that they will know how to behave. Some of them work on setting-up the ballroom, preparing food, and cleaning-up. At the dance, many of the young men will purposely wait until almost everyone has a partner so that they can ask a young lady who may not have been asked yet. What a wonderful way to appropriately care for a neighbor! We teach and encourage the young men to do this, but I celebrate each time I learn that one of them has practiced it.
Our goal is high standards in behavior, dress, dancing, decorations, and anything else we can think of. Some of the kids find this goal to be cumbersome, at least at first. A few do not see why dance practices are necessary. Others want an exception to dress code. What we inevitably find, however, is that our guests can appreciate the excellence of the evening; they enjoy everyone being dressed-up and they appreciate corporate knowledge of the dances. It may be a lot of effort, but the end result is grand.
Home schooling mom of four, and director of the ABQ Regency Ball.